Who Are You????

What! You ask .... what kind of headline is that?

It's a very reflective one, I will answer and I challenge each of you to actually ask yourself, "who am I?" "What do you stand for?"

Yes, I'm in a reflective mood. I've been in attendenance these past 2 weeks at some interesting events I'll call them for want of a better word. I've participated in the process and I've watched others. I have been told that what I'm dealing with and going through, the people involved and what is taking place is like dealing with terrorists and as we all know, you can't deal with terrorists! That is a harsh reality of our world today. In a rational world how does one deal with irrational and fanatical people? I'd love to know the answer to that! If countries can't do this, how then does an individual do so?

Do we allow the irrational beliefs of terrorists to rule our world, to control our actions and our responses? What brought them to this point? We're all aware of the "religious" fanatics who believe that there is only one true God and anyone who doesn't share their beliefs are to be destroyed.

But what about the people that you and I meet and deal with on a day to day basis, that are not couched in reality, that prefer to blame others for their mistakes or misfortunes or their circumstances in life? The people who never take responsibility for their own actions? How does one deal with people like this?

You have to let go. You have to realize that you cannot control others. You have to realize that you cannot control what someone else says and does. You can only control and change your reactions to what others say and do.

In my case this past week, I felt an enormous sadness at watching a human being in such a state of irrational belief, anger and blame, fear really, that controls all this persons actions. Fear that if they really look at what is happening around them, they won't be able to handle it. Ultimately, fear of facing their own failures. I was overwhelmed with sadness for this person, it is a hard thing to witness in another human being.

When we were born, we were all fearless. At the exact moment of our birth, we were truly fearless. As infants, we were perfect as we were still connected to the forces that created the world. As we age, we have all adopted fears from the world around us. We want to "fit in" and be like everyone else and so we model our own role models, often this is our parents. We take on their fears, limiting beliefs and false assumptions. We pick up more of these fears, limiting beliefs and false assumptions as we move through life and connect with the world around us. We're like a sponge, absorbing these things when in fact we need to wring out that sponge and rid ourselves of these beliefs and assumptions.

We need to go back and explore the source of all our fears and work through them so that they are no longer a part of our personal psyche so that we can truly know ourself. So that YOU can answer the question, "WHO ARE YOU?"

We all have our personal destiny in this world. Until we have freed ourselves of our fears, faced them and understand where they come from, take ownership for ourselves and our actions, past, present and future, our true destiny will not show itself to us. Work on your own personal "self-relationship" and once you know yourself, your destiny will find you.

No truer words were spoken when Woodrow Wilson said:

"You are here not merely to make a living. You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget that errand."

Work on your own self-relationship, forgive others and let go. The universe will provide when you are ready. You are exactly where you need to be today, allow and learn from the experience.

To your joyful abundance and prosperity,

Mary Wozny